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conflict counseling

To develop a deeper understanding of the conflicts in your life and build practices to facilitate change.
Taken at Allerton Gardens at the Nationa

During conflict counseling, we'll explore the conflicts impacting your life, relationships, and goals. 


Conflict counseling might be useful for you if:

  • fighting, argument, tension, and struggle are often a factor in your relationships and you want to better understand why and how to navigate that;

  • you receive feedback that your way of communicating or responding to disagreement is harmful to others and you want to prevent harm in the future;

  • avoiding conflict has disrupted your ability to advocate for your needs and interests and you want to gain conflict skills;

  • you have been harmed, controlled, or influenced by others in ways that make it difficult for you to know how and what to do in conflict situations; 

  • power struggles are consistently interrupting your individual or collective goals and you need support strategizing around those obstacles.

In conflict counseling, I use a trauma-informed approach directed by your needs and goals; it's a judgment-free place to explore whatever would be helpful for you to talk about. We live in a society that doesn't talk about conflict or teach conflict skills, so it can feel like we're a failure or "should know better," when we're struggling with conflict. But, it's completely normal to need or want support figuring things out—it's awesome if you're even considering asking for that support. 

* Conflict counseling is not therapy. I am not a licensed mental health clinician.

what you can expect

The Process

Initial Intake: You reach out to me, we discuss your needs, and determine whether we're a good fit.


Initial session: If we're a good fit, during our first session I'll get to know you, what's important to you, and we'll discuss your goals and how you want to spend our time together.


Following sessions: We'll spend as many sessions as you want working toward those goals. When you feel fully equipped to move on, we'll wrap up our time together by putting together some final strategies or resources you can take with you, if that's something you'd like to do.

Preparing for a Session

Before meeting with me, you might feel like you want to prepare. If that's you, spend a little time reflecting on these prompts: 

  • The conflicts most impacting me right now are about...​

  • Right now, this is happening with... [these people]

  • In the past, I [have/have not] experienced similar struggles about... and with...

  • I feel... during these situations

  • I feel... when I think about them later

  • When these conflicts come up, people tend to... [move in this way]

  • And I tend to... [move in this way]

  • I understand power [in this way]...


Logistics: ​

  • Sessions are one hour and can be done virtually or in-person. 

  • Sessions are entirely confidential and I am not a mandated reporter.

  • We can meet weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly. 

Sliding Scale Fee: $50 - $130/in-session time

The invoice after the session will provide guidance on how to select your rate (you decide what you can pay!) and how to pay. Factors to consider are: your income/financial security, how many sessions you expect to have, if there is more than one person in the session.


Fee covers my planning time, time after the session looking for resources or following-up, as well as our time together in the session. 


Please let me know if you have concerns about costs, I'm willing to negotiate or barter.

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